I have mentioned I belong to a church group that consists of younger couples. The guys seem to be OK with me but I don’t think any of the women like me. They are polite, but that’s it.
My feeling about this is that women are suspicious of any unattached man. What women call “creepiness” just means “unattached” or “without female social proof”. There is no point getting upset about this. These are socially conservative, traditional women; sexually permissive women are going to have pretty much the same reaction. Society just doesn’t like single men, any society.
Funny thing is, I recently had reasonably good-looking young woman be very friendly and animated with me. I was sitting in Starbucks, and this woman is playing with her smart phone. I want to practice my social skills, so I ask her “Is that an iPhone?” and she says yes. I say something like “my girlfriend loves those”. (she is actually obsessed with Apple and is getting one even though it is really too expensive for her.) She goes on at some length talking about how wonderful her iPhone is, with little prompting from me. I was actually hoping she would shut up after a while.
1) she was eager to talk about her gadget 2) I was only mildly interested and had no agenda and 3) I mentioned my girlfriend, indicating that I was not a creep, but actually had female companionship. Of these three I think #3 was almost half of the equation. #2 was second, not discounting #1. If you want to start off-the-cuff conversations with women, try saying something about your girlfriend, with only casual interest.