Seduction is Conquest

August 25, 2012

It just occurred to me that for women, sex is defeat. I talked about this before when commenting on something Roosh wrote about last minute resistance.

But my understanding was intellectual, not instinctual. I have noticed that at times when I was having sex and not maintaining a strong erection, the woman’s vagina seemed to actually spit out my dick. But this makes sense; resistance is part of the female program. Women must resist. Resistance is part of maintaining the integrity of their minds, bodies, and sex organs. They must resist, but the resistance must at some point fail.

Women must be defeated. For the woman, any kind of submission to a man is a kind of defeat. Or it’s preparing for defeat. Getting naked with you is a defeat, being penetrated is a defeat, having an orgasm is a defeat. She decides to let this happen, but she is only consenting to put herself in a position where you can make it happen. You still have to make it happen.

This is probably bleeding obvious to a lot of guys, but the problem with teaching game is that many concepts that are so bleeding obvious to guys who have good game skills is that they are complete mysteries to guys who don’t. If you are low social status, you are probably very allergic to being aggressive. I was conditioned by my parents not to be aggressive, and severely punished by my peers for being agggressive. A lot of game revolves around “playing it cool”, not showing too much interest or moving too fast, but this is in the context of being aggressive.

For me and people like me, doing almost anything seems to aggressive- like even talking to people. Game emphasizes looking for positive signals, permission or indication from the woman that your assertion of interest will be taken positively, but that can wind up being an excuse for inaction. Maybe the key is to behave in a friendly way, but not worry too much about whether you upset other people. The social rule seems to be that if you are smiling and being friendly, people are not supposed to be negative to you- they can be cold in a friendly way, but they can’t tell you to fuck off.

From the first contact until you are keeping your dick hard as you are fucking, you need to think aggression. As Don Draper said- “Ken, you’ll realize in your private life that at a certain point seduction is over, and force is actually being requested.” He’s not telling you to rape women- he’s just saying that once she has made the decision to let you have sex with her, you need to move ahead decisively.

Creepiness and Social Proof

August 8, 2012

I have mentioned I belong to a church group that consists of younger couples. The guys seem to be OK with me but I don’t think any of the women like me. They are polite, but that’s it.

My feeling about this is that women are suspicious of any unattached man. What women call “creepiness” just means “unattached” or “without female social proof”. There is no point getting upset about this. These are socially conservative, traditional women; sexually permissive women are going to have pretty much the same reaction. Society just doesn’t like single men, any society.

Funny thing is, I recently had reasonably good-looking young woman be very friendly and animated with me. I was sitting in Starbucks, and this woman is playing with her smart phone. I want to practice my social skills, so I ask her “Is that an iPhone?” and she says yes. I say something like “my girlfriend loves those”. (she is actually obsessed with Apple and is getting one even though it is really too expensive for her.) She goes on at some length talking about how wonderful her iPhone is, with little prompting from me. I was actually hoping she would shut up after a while.

1) she was eager to talk about her gadget 2) I was only mildly interested and had no agenda and 3) I mentioned my girlfriend, indicating that I was not a creep, but actually had female companionship. Of these three I think #3 was almost half of the equation. #2 was second, not discounting #1. If you want to start off-the-cuff conversations with women, try saying something about your girlfriend, with only casual interest.

Koanic Soul, Real Social Dynamics, New Weight Program

August 8, 2012

I have been working with the Koanic Soul program recently. It’s something completely different, based on genetic personality types. If you are a strongly introverted person you might want to look into it and see if it makes sense to you. I’m not sure what portion of my target audience would fall in this classification, but for those who do it could be valuable.

Koanic is a big fan of Real Social Dynamics. RSD is a program developed by the guy in “The Game” by Neil Strauss who went by the name Tyler Durden. Strauss obviously did not like Durden; he makes him out to be a weird goofball. The funny thing is the way Strauss described him physically and socially is very accurate. Koanic recommends an RSD program called “The Blueprint Decoded” which is $600 freaking dollars if you order the DVDs, but can be obtained as I did by a torrent download. I have watched some of it and what it seems to do is describe social interaction as it is experienced by “normal” people. The trouble introverted and intelligent people have is they are fixated on how things should work, as opposed to how they actually do work. I’m only about 20% into it but it looks very worthwhile. I have so much stuff to read I have been slacking off on this but when I get into it more I will write something on it.

I have been screwing around in the gym for a long time without getting serious about it. I found something called “5×5” which comes in several different versions, but essentially amounts to doing only three powerlifting exercises per workout- always squats, alternating between bench presses and barbell rows and overhead presses and deadlifts- doing 5 sets of 5 reps, and increasing the weight 5 pounds every workout. has a downloadable book on it. The theory is pretty convincing; in any case I’m too bored with long workouts of many different exercises to do a big weight program now, so I’m going to see how it goes. My main problem is being out of work so long I have gotten kind of doughy, which I hate.