I have been going to a church group- one of those things churches have these days where a small group of people meet on a weekday night and talk about the sermon or other stuff. I’m close to 50, most of the other people are couple around 30 with no kids. About three of these couples. There was also a single young woman of about 25 who used to come, but I haven’t seen her in a few months.
I was at the seafood counter at the supermarket this afternoon to get some fish for dinner, and I saw her at the meat counter. I wanted to say hi, I waited a bit and she moved in my direction, facing me, and I turned and said “How you doin’?” but she ignored me.
Either 1) she recognized me and didn’t want to talk to me- I had glasses on, and some beard growth, but I don’t think I looked that much different- or 2) she didn’t recognize me and ignored me for that reason.
I have had people obviously ignoring me. When I was in the Marines I was changing planes in Raleigh and saw a guy on the same flight from Basic School. But he was ignoring me- not not seeing me, not not noticing me, obviously ignoring me. He was a popular, cool guy and I was a loser so I figure OK, if that’s how you want to be about it. It was a big plane, airlines commonly used widebodies for domestic routes those days, so I wouldn’t see him on the flight anyway.
After I got on a guy asked me if I would switch seats so he could sit with his wife and kids. No problem. And who am I sitting next to? The guy continued to ignore me, and I him, all the way across the fucking country.
That’s an extreme example. I have had other people ignore me, then be forced by circumstances to acknowledge me, and be all weird about it. Or just be weird when seeing me again. I consider myself weird and awkward, but do I really have and understand social skills better than most people? Is a polite greeting to someone you have met before or are acquainted with that difficult to do? I don’t want to be buddies with you, I would just like basic human recognition, as I would extend to you.
I think this comes from childhood and adolescence. On the playground avoiding the unpopular is as important or more important than getting close to the popular. Outsiders have kind of a stink that may get on you. If you are friendly or even polite to such a person, people may associate them with you, to serious social consequence. I appreciate that but adults should be able to be polite and cordial to all others, no one is going to think you are on their social level because you say hello with a friendly face.
The Marine guy- his name is Curtis, and he’s from Michigan- was going to California, to fly helicopters. All the guys who went to flight school wanted to fly jets or at least C-130s and regarded flying helicopters as a fate worse than death. On the other hand I know various class A jerkoffs who flew F-18s, so poetic justice doesn’t always happen. I did run into another asshole from OCS who had gotten helicopters and was complaining about it to me like he had been betrayed. Boo fucking hoo.
Anyway- a lot of people are jerks, a lot of people have no class. An adult who acts like a teenage girl is pretty stupid. Worse than an omega I would say.