What does Amy Winehouse have to do with this? Well, she had a serious problem she couldn’t overcome. I read a famous blogger saying, she wanted to die, so be it. But she didn’t want to die. She wanted to have a healthy, happy, joyful life, like almost all other human beings. But she had a drug problem, and I suspect the worst thing about having a drug problem is all the people telling you get over it, just stop, go to rehab, why are you doing this, blah blah blah.
I was thinking the other day for some reason about Hugh O’Connor, son of actor Carroll O’Connor. He appeared with his father on the TV show “In the Heat of the Night”. He had a cocaine problem, and finally committed suicide. I read he was supposed to go back to rehab, but couldn’t face it. On top of the pain of getting off the drug, you have all these people moralizing to you. And you have to spend the rest of your life going to meetings, which is like a bad evangelical church. I can see why killing yourself or overdosing might look like a better alternative.
Psychology and therapy are very moralistic. If only you would try hard enough, or push yourself hard enough, then you would be successful and not be such a loser.
I think eventually they will come up with pharmaceutical treatments for drug and alcohol addiction that will be far more effective and less painful than what is done now with addicts.
The advice now for socially inept people tends to be along the lines of “Subject yourself to many painful and distressing experiences and you will improve.” Talking to a couple people with experience with addicts, these people often have not had a good childhood, and what seems to help them is learning to enjoy life and be happy with positive experiences without using drugs.
Being with people should be happy and joyful. I would like to learn how to make it like that.