Commenter Robert K writes, with reference to the post “Expanding Your Comfort Zone- Sports And Hobbies”-
“I am a bit like Matt T in that I was never good at team sports – mainly because I am an Aspie. I used to be very wimpy as well and people used to give me shit all the time. In the last few years I have taken up weightlifting and now look stronger. People don’t give me shit anymore. I am still way too socially handicapped to do well with women but at least people treat me with a lot of respect now. Even if it is the “be nice to me or I will beat the crap out of you” kind of respect, it is respect nonetheless.
Does this make me less Omega than before?”
Here is something really important. Having success with women, particularly for the omega, is largely a matter of getting into a state where you feel relaxed, not stressed or worried, and comfortable with yourself. All success with women stems from this feeling of relaxed satisfaction- I don’t think it’s the same as this thing pop psychologists call “confidence” and are always touting, but it serves the same purpose.
Roissy talked about this awhile back, in the context of weightlifting increasing testosterone. Building muscle may increase testosterone, give you a feeling of accomplishment, make you feel more attractive, but it’s not really important. It makes you feel good and feel relaxed, and that’s what’s important.
Robert describes himself as still socially unskilled, but social adeptness is overrated, I think, in success with women. Pop psychology recognizes it as important because it’s a female trait. Omegas think it is important, decry themselves for lack of it, and always want more, because reading other people socially is important to the survival of the low in status. And yet success with women- and positive relationships with others- really rest more on what you project to them, rather than reading and reacting to their behavior.
With regard to the “Aspie” part- I find that “normal” women have little ability to read, understand, or sympathize with my emotional state, so maybe women are the real “Aspies”. The idea that men should be highly attuned to the feelings of women is typical female selfishness.