The Paradox Of Experience

Virgle Kent talks about the value of experience-

As I have said before, “game” is no mystery. Everything about game is perfectly obvious to a guy who has a lot of experience with women. A guy who had a lot of experience with women would read something about game, look past the mumbo-jumbo and say “Duh, no shit.” If you don’t have experience with women, the concepts may seem strange, confusing, and counterintuitive, possibly to the extent you can’t apply them.

Ideally speaking a guy would start out early. He would have sex when he was 13, no later than 14, and have sex with a lot of women in high school. (I read a book called “The Complete Asshole’s Guide To Women” that suggests a guy should have a steady girlfriend throughout high school to practice sex, and then have sex with a bunch of different women in college.) He should have a couple of steady girlfriends, and a couple of serious girlfriends, who fall deeply in love with him and then he torments callously before dumping them. In college, or the same years if he doesn’t go to college, again lots of women. He should at some point- probably with the serious girlfriends- make some effort at making a woman happy, and balancing the alpha/beta traits like Married Man Sex Life talks about.

Having done all this a guy can go into adulthood and have the kinds of relationships he wants with women, ranging from casual sex to marriage, and understand the female psyche and how to manage it. Nothing any woman does will surprise him, because women aren’t really that complicated and they are remarkably similar across race, class and culture lines- “the colonel’s lady and Rosie O’Grady are sisters under the skin” as Kipling said.

There are a few of those guys. Most of us are not that guy. The average guy gets a little experience with women but not enough to understand their behavior- leading to the widespread belief women are mysterious and irrational- or overcome his social conditioning to behave in a beta or white-knight fashion.

There are worse things than being an omega. I was reading the other day that more and more young people are winding up in nursing homes- there was a guy who had been shot in the neck by his brother and was a quadriplegic. There is a guy in a wheelchair I see often at the coffee place I go to. He can’t really use his hands or talk- the girls who work there seem to be able to understand what he wants- and I have no doubt that on my worst day he would change places with me in a flash. If you’re older, without sexual experience and not sure where to begin, this is cold comfort. But still, inventory your situation, count your blessings however humble they may seem, and see where to go.

I look at the casual encounters ads on craigslist all the time. Even the fat sluts on craigslist have certain standards. “Have a car, a job and your own place” are common requirements. The last craigslist hookup I had knew I didn’t have my own place, but that was dicey. If you don’t have these things, concentrate on getting them first.

Having your own place, a car and a job, your problem becomes what is the least desirable woman you can get it up for. Roosh just had something on the perils of bad breath; the first woman I tried to have sex with without paying had heinous breath, and hair on her upper lip to boot. (Somebody needs to tell women, especially those over 35, this is a real boner-killer. We in the manosphere know women rarely get negative feedback, even when they really need it, but I’ll leave that subject to the Spearhead.) I tried to stay away from her mouth, to keep my erection, but then she’d kiss me and it would shrivel. The problem being an awkward guy without experience with women may not be able to get desirable or even average women; you might land a hottie but I’m guessing your early experiences will be with unattractive women.

If you find yourself in the same situation I was in, I wouldn’t worry too much. You got her to the point where she was willing to have sex with you; now try the same thing on a somewhat better looking woman, and you will eventually be able to get it in.

But there is simply no alternative to having experience with as many women as you can. If you have some catch-up to do, get a few under your belt and you will have it much easier.

4 Responses to The Paradox Of Experience

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  2. Colin says:

    Specifically, get your ass to Thailand and bang as many chicks as you can for six months. Womanhood will have few secrets from you after that. And sex will no longer seem so precious to you. Just don’t fall in love.

  3. The Truth says:

    “Even the fat sluts on craigslist have certain standards. “Have a car, a job and your own place” are common requirements.”

    The f’ugly internet, craigslist women have priced themselves out of the market. I’m not going to work a shitty job, waste money on a car and a house just to fuck a nasty, ugly bitch who can barely make my cock stand up. I can fuck a tight pussy hot 18-25 year old attractive whore for a fraction of the price. A lot of prostitutes couldn’t care less what job you have (or if you have a job), what kind of car you drive or whether you live in a mansion or a cardboard box. Fuck the bullshit.

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