Lawyers have something they call “client control”, and I have heard the term used by real estate agents as well. By this they mean the client follows the course of action they recommend. Lawyers often deal with emotional people who don’t understand what the attorney can and cannot realistically do for them. In some situations this is easy- they just tell the person they can’t do anything, that they have no case. Other times I suppose it is a lot harder- the client may want his lawyer to file a suit immediately, when a sternly worded letter is the best course of action. Or send a sternly worded letter, when a polite letter is better. In any case, the relationship is a success from the attorney’s standpoint if the client remains calm, takes his advice, accepts the outcome, is grateful for the attorney’s work, and pays his bill promptly.
I find this need for control very much present in relationships. The ideal alpha male we are all supposed to strive to be controls the emotions of the woman he is involved with- he doesn’t let her negative emotions spiral out of control and hurt him or hurt the relationship.
This is particularly difficult as the modern woman seems to have no ability or desire to control her emotions. Women universally believe- because they read it in Cosmo or some self-help book- that they need to express all their emotions, particularly to men they are involved with. Just sort of dump everything out there, but especially negative emotions like anger, dissatisfaction and disappointment.
This was what doomed my relationship with my first foreign girlfriend. She had a fairly aggressive personality, and was inclined to word ambushing or word dumping. My Spanish ability was more limited then, so in conversation I would be totally overwhelmed; I couldn’t understand her words, which put me on the back foot to begin with with dealing with her emotions. And she was a pretty angry person, and unfortunately inclined to take it out on me. The poor doofus omega boyfriend tends to be the one safe person to dump on.
A successful relationship then depends on the man’s ability to control his own emotions, because he must be able to control the woman’s emotions. My current foreign girlfriend is more educated, higher class, and not fundamentally angry like the previous one was. But she still unleashes her anger, disappointment and dissatisfaction with me on occasion, and I get tired of trying to reassure her, even though I’m sometimes successful at it. The only thing I can think of is these episodes must be clipped in the bud, harshly if need be. No alpha has to put up with his girlfriend bitching extensively.