The current Maxim has an article about TV chef Guy Fieri. As you might expect he’s a big BS artist, a super outgoing extrovert. Many people of this sort don’t have any hard skills; they make a living in sales or management positions. Fieri however has a specific skill, cooking. His first restaurant was a big success; his extraversion probably helped this a great deal, in motivating employees and making customers happy, but the food must have been very good also; a restaurant does not thrive without good food.
My guess is that while cooks aren’t usually highly extroverted, they aren’t highly introverted either; it’s a job that requires working closely with other people in a “fast-paced environment” as the job ads like to say (which means a lot of people screaming at you) so that requires more people orientation than a strong introvert, who usually likes quiet and order, has. Introverts tend to gravitate to positions with hard, technical skills
And yet are introverts anti-social? I don’t think so. Often they’re pretty interesting to talk to. However, this requires you get the ball rolling. “Getting the ball rolling” conversation-wise is a key skill of extroverts.
To get the ball rolling, you don’t actually need to be an extrovert; but you need to be able to act like one for a few minutes. Conversational skills material teaches simple methods for initiating and continuing conversations; opening with a question or a comment, asking open-ended questions, sharing personal information. All these are good but I think intangibles like energy are what make it really work. Maybe this is what Dale Carnegie means by being genuinely interested in others.
I’m going to try talking to people, but trying to pump it up, put some more energy into it and see if I can get a more enthusiastic reaction from people.
I did a few days of temporary work for the guy I was talking to around Christmas; but he was a bad guy and we didn’t get along. I’m pretty discouraged as I had high hopes for that turning into a decent permanent job. I was a little shell-shocked late last week and early this week but I’m trying to get back on the horse.