I have a friend who is a natural- he doesn’t get the hottest women, in fact he often has sex with ugly ones, but he is rarely without a “friend with benefits” as we now call them. He told me a story recently that I think illustrates a fundamental difference between naturals and other men.
Long ago, when he was a kid, he wanted to buy a tape recorder. He saved up his money and went to the store. The lady behind the electronics counter told him the one he wanted for $20 was sold out, but there was another one for $50, which she showed him. He thanked her but said he only had the money for the $20 model. She tells him, “Meet me in back of the fabric store in 20 minutes.” He was familiar with the fabric store, as his mom bought fabric there, and remembered the big stacks of fabric made for privacy in the back. He meets her there and she produces the $50 tape recorder and gives it to him, for nothing. He thanks her, and she asks him if he wants to come back to her apartment and hang out. “The problem”, he told me, breaking into laughter, “was that I had not yet reached puberty.” He declined, due to an inability to perform sexually, but she was cool with it and he went home with his tape recorder.
I had a junior-high teacher who may have been putting the moves on me (a woman) but I have never had that kind of sexual aggression from women. His college girlfriend made the first move with him, pretty directly as I remember. I believe there is something biologically different about naturals, probably a higher level of testosterone among other things. The prepubescent pickup my friend experienced can’t be explained by his testosterone level, because he hadn’t hit puberty yet, but his father was a super Type A guy who got a lot of women, which makes me think it’s genetic/biological.
Hanging out with naturals won’t get you laid. I have tried it. You can’t model naturals because they don’t do anything. You can’t ask them to explain what they do because they don’t do anything and if they did, they wouldn’t be able to explain it.
You have to take naturals out of the equation, because comparing yourself to them is frustrating and not realistic in any case.