Assanova talks about the importance of romance-
Briefly he says many guys have little idea how to be romantic with a woman, since they spend all their time watching sports or action movies, and have not seen much of the kind of romance that women like as shown in romantic movies and soap operas.
Being romantic with a woman is regarded as poison in the gameosphere. It is ridiculed as totally beta, wimpy, pathetic, etc. If you don’t show the appropriate level of male strength, this is true. But woman also respond to romance, and if you have both I think you will have the full package.
Assanova seems to be a born alpha, and I don’t think he has ever experienced the fear and insecurity of showing emotion that low status guys have. My comment was-
“Typically guys without game understand, and have experienced a bit, that if you show romance to women with male status they will be indifferent to repelled. Going the opposite way- all alpha, possibly asshole- seems like the answer. And yet these guys still want to express romantic feelings to a woman, and have them reciprocated, so the philosophy of game leaves them cold on another level, and they can’t really execute it due to lack of commitment.
Omega guys are excluded from the men’s world, and they feel like if they get involved in the feelings world they will be perceived as gay, so they tend to retreat into a world of science, computers, and entertainment based on science and computers. (My own father has degrees in hard science and computer science.) I rebelled against that and got into the world of action and machines.
Using game is pretty intimidating and difficult for omegas, but showing emotional vulnerability can de terrifying. But I suppose learning a balance to these things is essential.”
Among the terrible things about abuse and domination is that it stunts people emotionally. If you can’t express your emotions, if you have to suppress them all the time- positive as well as negative- you can’t grow emotionally. Weak people are punished for showing happiness, enthusiasm, and joy as well as anger and sadness, because the powerful don’t want them to be happy either.
We have a culture, particularly amongst intelligent people, of cynicism, irony, and contempt for things and people not cynical and ironic. I know as much as I need to learn strength and security, I also need to learn happiness and openness.
The only other guy to talk about balance is Married Man Sex Life. He does it in the context of being married, but it applies to all relationships with women and life in general.