Susan Walsh has a post on rejection-
I would like to talk about this more, but here is my comment-
“What really sucks is being rejected without ever having been asked to be accepted in the first place. I would loved to have just been ignored from the ages of about 11 to 15.
You have to find a way to frame rejection that makes it possible to try again. Have something going with at least a couple others so one can’t hurt you too much.
I suspect trying something new, you are highly likely to fail and be rejected. Meeting women from online sites after not having done it for a long time, I have found that at first they have a pretty negative reaction to me, because I come across pretty uptight. After the first two I seem to loosen up.
I plan to try cold approaches, but I want to have a couple sex buddies first, as confidence backstops.”
Indeed the key to not getting hurt by rejection is by having somebody who’s not rejecting you. That’s the key to not being needy, and not caring.
I saw a few women today I wanted to approach, but I still need to work up to that. Having one woman very sexually gratified helps boost my confidence, but I’d like to get the ball rolling a little more strongly.