Virgil Kent talks about the rules of game, and when to break them-
His most important point is you have to remember you’re dealing with human beings. If you don’t have a lot of experience with women, or if you have no experience with women, following certain rules will help you avoid doing something really stupid- what Roissy sarcastically refered to as Fuckup Avoidance Game. With all due respect I submit avoiding fuckups is a good thing. When did you ever fuck up and say “I’m glad I did that”? And when did you ever fuck up and not say “I wish I hadn’t done that”?
I was flying into Miami recently and looking down at the sprawl I remembered meeting a cute woman from Panama when I lived near there. I believe I met her on the internet and we met at an IHOP in Hialeah for breakfast. She was very cool and offered to teach me how to dance.
I called her a few days later and asked her to go out on a weekday. That’s one of the rules, you take a woman out on a weekday date first, and maybe for a couple more dates, so you don’t look too eager or desperate. She said she didn’t like to go out on weekdays because she would be tired for work.
I think I felt I had been a little snubbed and shot my wad, so I never called her back. I should have just taken her out on a weekend and who knows what have happened. I don’t hold it against myself too much- in fact I had forgotten about it until the other day. I was groping in the dark with how to relate to women, as I still am to a great extent.
The only real solution to this is experience. You have to get as much experience with women as you can, using the rules as a guideline, making judgements about what is effective for you, using your intuition when appropriate, understanding yourself and your reactions, and hopefully learning from this and not repeating any mistake more than once or twice.