A site which addresses my exact questions is “Married Man Sex Life” which I have added to the blogroll.
The widely held concept of “never get married” is the easy and obvious answer to this problem but I don’t think it is workable for most guys. Most want to enjoy the benefits of family life, but while avoiding the traps. Game is definitely necessary in relationships; and in marriage most of all, as bailing out is very expensive, difficult and traumatic.
I picked up the current copy of “Esquire”- no I’m not a fag, it has Christine Hendricks on the cover, but regrettably only one picture inside. In the interview she talks about what you need to do to get laid when married, which she assures us breezily is the same as getting laid when single. The whole point of getting married is to get laid easier, in return for sacrificing freedom and acquiring large and open-ended obligations. So if it’s not any easier, why get married? It’s pretty creepy if you ask me.