Susan Walsh recently introduced a 24 year-old female virgin, upset by the fact her status is not accepted in New York. I got a bit testy with her, for which I can’t completely apologize since nobody seems to be talking any sense to her-
Recently at “In Mala Fide” a commenter fulminates against game-
These two people have one simple thing in common, which is that they don’t want to deal with the way the world actually, currently works, right now in urban America. The social reality you live in must at least be acknowledged. You can then deal with it intelligently, understanding what tradeoffs you are making.
The basic problem Jaqueline (the 24 year-old voluntary female virgin) has is that in her social context, her choice is regarded as abnormal. If she lived in Dallas, she would have more social support for it. If she lived in a small, rural, conservative community she would have yet more, even if most other people weren’t actually behaving the same way. Yuppie New York is a different story. As much as these people claim to be tolerant and open-minded, they have pretty limited ideas about what is acceptable behavior. Jaqueline just wants people to be the way they claim to be, a typical young person’s mistake. Hypocrisy is the norm, that’s the way it is.
John isn’t just unrealistic, he is downright silly. He wants all the guys who are currently having sex with loose women to stop, for his idea of the social good. I think I can safely say it’s not going to happen. Is the current sexual marketplace a dirty, destructive game? I’ll agree it is but neither John or I is in any position to change it.